all of our family’s birthdays are between Oct 18 and Jan 21, with my and our oldest son’s being Dec. 28 and Dec.29, and Mr. 4tops being Jan 6, and our daughter Jan. 21, and IF conception of a new baby occured this month or next, AND the possible due dates would be around the first of Jan, or first of Feb, doesn’t it then seem it would be wise to wait til June to jump into this thing?  I mean, we are so. broke. and. exhausted. by the end of January!  How much more could be crammed in there?

Down to light spotting already.  This means, if I’m back on a fairly normal cycle, and ovulate around day 14, we’ve got to be careful starting in about, um, in about 6 days.  Don’t sperm live for 3 days?  So day 11 is actually not safe.  Ack.  Then if I’m early ovulating, if I do at all, day 9 or 10 is not "safe".  Is there really any safe??!  And it’s common knowledge that Mr. 4tops is not a big fan of "barrier methods".  Maybe abstinence for the next month?  Maybe we’re not ready for this at all?!?